wheel of consent

we will go through Dr. Betty Martin’s “Wheel of Consent” in order to arrive at a mutual understanding of how touch is navigated and understood within the context of this work - for you to know the importance of communicating your desires and when your boundaries are crossed. we may play a game to assess your comfort level of asking for what you want and how you feel about hearing or saying “no” and “yes”.

the three minute game

in this session we will begin to incorporate touch via the hands. we may play a game to assess and build your awareness of direct sensations of pleasure in your body, and then move to asking for specific kinds of touch you may want. at every opportunity you are celebrated in your No and we are ALWAYS able to re-orient to a different activity. we may move to incorporate another part of the body if you are feeling confident and comfortable.

hello my body

this session is focused on your relationship to your body and inviting your whole self and all of the feelings and stories associated to your body into the space. i will invite you to share the story of your being with me, by undressing to your comfort level and inviting your nakedness and vulnerability into the space. why do we do this? oftentimes our body image is an obstruction as to how we receive and sink into pleasure. an opportunity to acknowledge all of the hang-ups or love or scars or history or fears, witnessed by a silent observer, is a powerful start in undoing the layers of concern about being naked and receiving touch.

following this, we may move into session no. 6

pleasure mapping

we move into mapping the terrain of your body and how it likes, loves and possibly hates to be touched. this is an opportunity to ask for what you want, and also to explore new sensations and touch that might ignite desires or pleasure in your body. sometimes we lack the language of touch experiences, and this session is here to support this navigation.

genital mapping

in this session we will begin pleasure mapping on your bits, specifically. this feels like an appropriate time to remind you, dear reader, that you are ALWAYS in control of what happens in session (as long as it is within the boundaries of our work together), so if this feels like too much, just remember we can go backwards or adjust this session to feel safer for you.

in this session the invitation is to feel my hands on you, in a very slow, mindful and present way. there is ongoing communication, connection, and noticing.

this session is often incredibly powerful for most people.

rosebud mapping

this one may feel particularly edgy to you or it may be right up your alley. as always, this session is always optional and you never have to do anything that isn’t a yes to you.

this session is an opportunity to explore external (and possibly internal) anal pleasure. similar to session no. 8, it is very slow, mindful and communicative.

many bodies have trauma in their assholes and this area of the body holds a lot on a day-to-day basis. this is an opportunity to rewire and reorient to slow and titrated pleasure.

intentional pleasure rituals

perhaps there is something major happening in your life or your heart. maybe you want to do a session with a specific intention… eg. “to curate self-worth,” “to breath into building fuller and richer experiences of presence and mindfulness while receiving touch,” “to allow myself to feel pleasure as valuable in itself,” “to feel queer enough,” “to focus on finding alignment when in pleasure”…. whatever it may be, we will work on finding personal affirmations (or “iffirmations” eg… “what if i was enough” vs “i am enough”), perhaps pull a card from kim krans Archetypes deck, light a candle, do a meditation, and focus on imprinting these intentions with pleasure in your body.