casia sobolewski (previously: Caitlin K. Roberts)

hello! my name is Casia (Cash-a) and my pronouns are she/her.

i ADORE the work that i get to play in every day with unique and incredible humans. i love calling forth truth, embodiment, pleasure, attunement, connection, PLAY.

i knew at the age of 15 that themes around sexuality were incredibly compelling to me. i like to tell people that if i had known this job was an option, i definitely would’ve have chosen it then. however, i thoroughly enjoyed the process of getting to discover this incredible field of work.

at 21 i began running ‘Body Pride’ workshops, in which i would invite strangers and friends to come together and get naked in a casual, non-erotic setting, to talk about our bodies and sex and relationships, culminating in a naked dancing photoshoot. this workshop was turned into a short documentary that has been submitted to international film festivals.

these workshops introduced me to many like-minded humans that quickly became friends and business partners. a group of us formed a queer community events company called “I’d Tap That” and collectively we hosted gatherings in Toronto for over 3 years.

in turn, this inspired us to begin “Spit” (this hyperlink will take you to an adult website, heads up) a queer alternative porn company, producing feminist content that was in alignment and powered by the people in our community. after winning multiple awards from the Feminist Porn Awards, Spit is currently being run by the porn extraordinaire, Malcolm Lovejoy.

all of these projects inspired me to get ‘legit’ and i completed my Holistic Sex Educator certification, received training from the International Professional Surrogates Association, and got certified as a Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Bodyworker.

i now work 1:1 with clients in supporting them in accessing the abundant and delicious pleasure that lives in their bodies that is often numbed or unnoticed due to patterns of trauma, impacts of the patriarchy and capitalism, or a lack of education. i LOVE this work because we don’t just talk about feeling pleasure, we actually just work on feeling pleasure in session, and THIS is how you change the body and the brain.

my ~achievements~ (aka neat things i do and have done):

i also work with Pamela Madsen of Back to the Body: Sensuous Retreats for Women, and am a co-founder of The Apollo Project: Retreats for Men. i am currently working with Mehdi Yahya Darvish on offering a trauma skills and erotic healing training for s3x workers, called Lilith Bay. i served two years on the boards of the Somatic Sex Educators Association, and the Association for Certified Sexological Bodyworkers. i have presented at the 2018 Guelph Sexuality Conference (on “The Magic of Mindful Masturbation), and taught at McMaster University, George Brown college, Good For Her, Come As You Are, the Institute of Sexuality Education & Enlightenment, and MIT (yes, the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, it was very cool).

i have been featured in and on: CBC, The Toronto Star, The Walrus, Cosmopolitan, 640 radio, The Plaid Zebra, GirlyJuice.net, Maisonneuve, the book “Closer” by Sarah Barmak, and variety of other printed and recorded publications.

i had the honour of attending one of Betty Dodson’s Bodysex Workshops, and of working for her and Carlin Ross for a short period of time producing “My Orgasm” videos.

some more about my positionality beyond my sex-relevant work life…

i am a English-speaking second generation settler to Canada, of Polish and Welsch ancestry, and currently live on the unceded Coast Salish, W̱SÁNEĆ and Lekwungen territories, colonially known as Victoria on Vancouver Island in Canada. i am the granddaughter of war refugees.

i identify as a queer, non-disabled, introverted, polyamorous, kink-positive, and married, cis-femme. i am a mother to one and step-mother to three. i am a devoted sister, daughter, friend, and partner.

i am 31 years old, with some University education (i never finished my degree and likely never will), and currently live within a beautifully privileged middle socio-economic status, with strong family support. i have the privilege of a mostly stable and joyful nervous system which allows my body to feel safe and therefore have great access to pleasure.

my hope and desire: to support those who also want to access exquisite pleasure and joy in their bodies.

Background, Training, & Employment

Staff Member with Back to the Body: Sensual Retreats for Women, Pamela Madsen, 2018 - Current

Board Member of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers, 2019 - 2021

Board Member of the Somatic Sex Educators Association, 2018 - 2021

“Like A Pro” Wheel of Consent with Dr. Betty Martin, 2018

Co-Founder & Practitioner of The Apollo Project: Retreats for Men, 2018

Certified Somatic Sex Educator & Sexological Bodyworker, SSEA / Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, 2017

Intern Surrogate Partner, International Professional Surrogates Association, 2017

Certified Holistic Sex Educator, Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment, 2015 - 2018

Founder of Spit.Exposed, Toronto’s Queer & Feminist Porn, 2014 - 2019

Volunteer with Planned Parenthood on HIV Awareness, 2015

Founder of “Body Pride,” naked workshops for body love, 2012 - 2016